Friends:

You may have heard  “It Is Well With My Soul” a hymn penned by hymnist Horatio Spafford

It Is Well With My Soul

When peace like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to know,a
It is well, it is well, with my soul…..

Just a quick note, whatever you are dealing with – past, present, and future…go check out this song and meditate on the lyrics- and be comforted and confirmed – even with all the doubts, shame, failures, and separation- you are Loved unconditionally.

Experience, Engage, and Embody what your faith means to you and your loved ones- here and gone.  Appreciate every minute – they are precious!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xpaOJg8kTQ

We all have struggles, sacrifices, and death- but rest in the fact, “It is well, it is well, with my Soul”

I Love you Doc H aka Big Daddy!

trey

Friends:

This is a great message (from Jim Jackson) of why your work matters and more importantly…when you do your work–do it with compassion, 110% effort, and far beyond average.  YOU ARE NOT AVERAGE- so BE EXCEPTIONAL now- and LIVE that way by your actions!

The law of uncommon results: If you want uncommon results, you have to do common things in uncommon ways.

“It is safe to stay in the middle of the pack.  If you are average no one complains about you or expects too much of you.  Mediocrity has its rewards.  But you never find out what you are capable of.

Here is the problem: some people expect uncommon results from common effort.  And they are usually disappointed.  If you want uncommon results, you have to do common things in uncommon ways.

By “common things” I mean doing the basic things with excellence.  Think football: blocking and tackling and second efforts, not trick plays or looking good coming out of the huddle.

By “uncommon ways” I mean creativity, enthusiasm and going beyond anything that could reasonably be expected.  Again, think football: covering for the mistakes of other players, improvising to get open or playing while hurt.

People who do common things in uncommon ways achieve uncommon results.”

Jim Jackson

 

Friends:

The late Zig Ziglar remind us ….”if you give enough other people what they want, you will get what you want”.

In our selfish worldly society, its easy to make things all about YOU.  I know this well, being the only son (and youngest child) of a family of five.  Until recently, my heart was right, but the actions sometimes did not equate.  Then, the transformation- THANK GOD!  My pastor says you are not a man until you are 30…and i love my 30′s~!

We all have “it” in us- the ability to love, to give gifts of kindness, leadership, compassion, trust, mercy, forgiveness and sacrifice.  It’s God given- a gift to us.  So now we have an obligation to reciprocate. The issue is, our mainstream world does not always promote that- or its masked with sin, greed and pride.  It’s all about ME– or is it all about something, someone, a cause and a mission greater?

Believers encounter this way of living every day…and when we see the light- the bright light of compassion leads to JOY.  we know joy is not a reaction or a conditional response- it’s what and who we are!  Yes, and it’s a choice.

What can we do to live in JOY and do what we love- that causes impact and give gifts to others.

  1. Accept the TRUTH – and extend GRACE to others.   It’s hard- just do it NOW!
  2. Pray and meditate on what JOY looks like- ask for help and embrace change
  3. Help your spouse, family, loved ones and strangers- it get’s your mind off YOU.
  4. Learn from mistakes, all of them…The word “TEST” is in the word “TESTIMONY”.
  5. Be thankful for your mistakes, and please then turn the page
  6. find a way NOW to forgive your enemies- maybe they don’t know what they did or just need help too- get over it!
  7. prepare to be blessed- you are here for Impact, Love, and to make positive Change
  8. Give away your time, talents, treasure with discipline to others–it’s not your stuff- it belongs to your Creator to share
  9. LUNGE forward and get uncomfortable- if you are comfortable- you are not doing enough work that matters
  10. BE AUTHENTIC- yourself, YOU…be funny, laugh, smile and apply some affection to loved ones

Now, GO- GO NOW and do this work with family, friends, co-workers and strangers– and make this crazy world a better place- WE NEED YOU!

trey

 

 

Friends:

Have you ever heard the term “punch fear in the mouth”, or “dance with the Fear”, “or “No Fear”?

Let’s face it, some Fear is good as it keeps us alive- and we will never have “no fear” unless we all want to die fast.  Fear helps us escape from a rabid dog, keep our doors locked at home or not go into a dark alley after dark. What I really want to discuss here quickly, is Faith vs Fear….  and the Fear you can further drill down into as “anxiety”.  So, what if we replaced the word “Fear” with “Anxiety”…now you start to know the feeling we are discussing …. that uneasy feeling of the last minute presentation, the Meet the Parents encounter, the family member who is sick, the feeling you are not worthy feeling….the feeling you have not made enough, done enough, impacted enough people, etc… that uneasy feeling…maybe it is FEAR/anxiety (False Evidence Appearing Real) F.E.A.R

So below, the main point of this blog is exactly what one of my old Pastors Jim Jackson sent our this morning, and it surely hits a chord.  I hope you like this as much as i do in better understanding your Brilliant Brain (Neocortex) FAITH Infused Brain vs your Lizard Brain (Reptilean primiative FEAR based brain)  we need both….but maybe its time to embrace Faith and Less Fear ;)

The law of fear and faith: Faith is the antidote to fear.

To the extent that we are plagued by fear, we are not living by faith.  And to the extent that we are living by faith, we are not ruled by fear.  Faith and fear are opposites.

By “faith” I mean more than what people say they believe.  Faith is how we live out what we say we believe.  It is acting in a believing way.  Faith is belief wrapped in skin.

Courage is sometimes different from faith, but up close the two look just alike.  Faith-filled people act with courage.  They act on their convictions regardless of public opinion or social consequences.  They do not shrink from friends or foes.  The throw caution to the wind and do what their flesh is afraid to do.  That is why the first category of people excluded from the heavenly city, according to the Book of the Revelation, are cowards.  Cowards lack faith and without faith it is impossible to please God.

What is is you know you should do that you are afraid to tackle? Do not be afraid. Have faith.

 

Friends:

Have you ever noticed when someone you know always seems to be in the right place at the right time- and maybe that is you? Most of the time, we want to believe it’s luck or the golden touch!

But maybe, just maybe, that person is highly in tune with their AWARENESS and NOTICING sixth senses.  What do i mean by that?  Simply put, I believe these conscious efforts are manifested in the brain whereby one can actually make deliberate choices to be in tune with their immediate and far reaching senses- as it relates to physical, mental, and spiritual stimuli occurring every millisecond we live.

for instance, i have 4 children, i usually make a choice to always prepare myself in a parking lot and know how many things could happen if a teenager reckless driver barrels thru the parking lot, and what i would do in that situation.  i will find myself walk first into the crossing, look far away and close by for other cars arriving or departing, then make the assessment it is all clear to lock hands and then cross.  this in turn keeps me and my children above the death line.

kind of a silly example above, but lets use the same example of awareness/judgement/noticing in a business deal.  Have you played out the entire film strip of what’s to come in your next deal?  Evaluative Judgment might just be the highest human behavior as evidenced by the Hartman Profile.  http://www.hartmaninstitute.org/

Disclaimer:  ”Faith” is the number one way to accomplish the unthinkable- but here are some tips i have for you approaching your daily life and help put more Faith in action  - so you can thrive and be in hyper tune with your senses and be able to manifest and predict just what might happen before it does…

  1. stay healthy, balanced, and have a clear mind- this will open up creative juices.  try Yoga, working out, healthy diet.
  2. strip out all the noise- pay attention to what you are doing at that specific time.  means you must Focus.
  3. Think, Initiate then Reflect. Don’t just React! Thinking first of what you are doing before you do it – gets linear thinking in tune
  4. Quiet the Lizard Brain (our fight or flight attitude. Many people call it “The Lizard Brain” because the limbic system is about all a lizard has for brain function. It is in charge of fight, flight, feeding, fear, freezing-up, and fornication.)
  5. Instead Engage the Neocortex. The neocortex is involved in higher functions such as sensory perception, generation of motor commandsspatial reasoningconscious thought and language.  this is far different then our primitive lizard brain!
  6. practice productive paranoia- not destructive- i said productive paranoia— how many things can go wrong when i do this deal and did i bring extra oxygen to the dance?
  7. be uber specific about your INTENT of what you are doing at that moment- are you completely plugged into your task, emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually?
  8. love and respect every moment of your life, even changing diapers.  find joy to increase the awareness factor in all life
  9. manifest and visualize how your task or deal will go down— same as golfers visualize their shot before shooting? try meditation too
  10. Believe in yourself and team (family)- you notice, love, protect, defend, create and share your new found gifts

I hope you will find the above thoughts,steps, and ideas beneficial for you.  I feel your life will change when you change your intentions on noticing, awareness and evaluative judgement.  As with anything, its a God given gift to us, but we must deliberately use this gift, concentrate, pray about it, and practice, and of course want it!  God bless- Happy Trails

Trey Halberdier

HALBERDIER Real Estate / Trey Halberdier Insights

www.theHrealestate.com / www.treysinsights.com

Friends:

We have all heard the term, “keep it real” or “he/she is a real person”.

so what does “real” mean?  actually existing as a thing or occurring in fact; not imagined or supposed. (of a substance or thing) not imitation or artificial; genuine.

How are we as human beings, companies, families, enterprises… considered real?  The answer starts with being AUTHENTIC!

In today’s world of high tech, fame, connections, the mad dash for success, power, chasing the dollar, or being somebody we are not to achieve some or all of the above  — it becomes more important to be REAL, AUTHENTIC, GENUINE.  Why…because it now matters and people can smell it.  It sets you apart.  We all possess the same ability to have fancy gadgets, social media connections, attend all the parties, be like the other person,…. and at the end of the day…..are you being the person God has gifted your Life and Purpose deep down inside?  Here are some things our firm HALBERDIER Real Estate inspire in our quest for deeper authentic connections:

  1. Define and Live out your God given Purpose with Faith
  2. Do what you Love to Do – attendance based compensation days are over
  3. Don’t pay attention to Critics and Haters –  they are everywhere.  Instead connect only with Winners!
  4. Get grounded and tap into your Humility- have you been completely honest about your character defects?
  5. What are you top 5 strengths creating Impact and NOW let them shine!
  6. Connectedness is a Value and Gift to people- so use it.
  7. People know how much you Care, they don’t care how much you know.
  8. Give gifts of your time, talents and treasure without expecting Anything in return
  9. always do the next right thing even when it hurts and no one is looking
  10. Patiently listen to needs of others and sincerely offer service, generosity and help

Friends, now more than ever we need you.  Connect with your Higher Power and the people who are your biggest cheerleaders, and love others for who they are….. and watch your REAL Purpose and Gifts grow and grow!

trey halberdier

Friends:

Here’s the list – “what people value the most in the workplace”.  From Seth Godin’s “Linchpin- are you Indispensable”

9 intrinsic and only 1 extrinsic value out of 10.  Meaning we all crave an emotional internal need for a great platform to work….

  1. Challenge and Responsibility-- we thrive on challenges while being responsible and accountable
  2. Flexibility and Freedom- we are huge believers in this (solid life work balance).  You can’t pay a price for freedom!
  3. Stable work environment- select hires – energetic cohesive place to work- only linchpins work here
  4. Money- as Zig Ziglar says, it’s close to oxygen.  we will put you in positions to make lots of this
  5. Professional Dvlpt- as you know, we love this stuff- we will do more CRE training and book studies etc as desired by team
  6. Peer recognition- We purposely have “give acceptance and consideration” in our core values- this is huge!
  7. Stimulating colleagues and team members- our team will be super tight- fraternal brothers that feed off eachother
  8. Exciting Job content- needless to say- we have lots of exciting things happening in market and our industry- carpe diem
  9. Organizational Culture- culture is how we all treat each other and have fun together- make work fun and “wow” investors and clients
  10. Location and Community- hence The Woodlands – http://www.theHrealestate.com (the H blog), http://www.treyinsights.com, and our community philanthropy etc-  a connected movement, and capitalizing on our networks and mentors etc

“Optimism is for artist, change agents, linchpins, and winners- are you working to make things better?”

….may we continue to seek sound discernment, informed courage and use great judgment and action towards the mission.  WE CREATE EXCEPTIONAL REAL ESTATE OPPORTUNITIES!

trey

 

 

FIGHTING the Battle Within

Trey —  April 27, 2015 — Leave a comment

Friends:

YOU are in the biggest fight of your LIFE.  The most important challenge for YOU is to learn how to conquer YOURSELF.  We all have a story- what is YOURs?

FEAR- can YOU dance next to FEAR?  – sure you can.  FEAR are False Experiences/or Evidence Appearing Real (FEAR).  When you have the belief, faith and conviction in God’s will- well then just rest easy…or at least do your best right?  When has He purposely done you wrong?

DOUBT- can YOU get to the next level when you second guess yourself?  YOU have purpose in this LIFE, so go for it.  God loves you and so do ALL the people who believe in YOU.  YOU are here to be an example to others and lunge forward and GO FOR IT!

SHAME- who really cares what YOU did in the past – they may not forget but should forgive, …and did you learn and change is the key.  Guilty feelings are one thing, and can be used constructively, but don’t wallow in shame– it is a cancer that spreads and infects others.  YOU are forgiven, and a new human being.  LOVE others and get the focus off YOURSELF and go help somebody.  Be vulnerable – the opposite of SHAME.

Thank you to David Dorn and THE LOFT, for inspiring us to Fight the Good Fight– the one FIGHT that does matter.  GROW, LOVE, COMPASSION, FAITH, COURAGE, SACRIFICE – - NOW GO FIGHT THE GOOD FIGHT!!

trey

 

 

Are YOU a DANGEROUS Dreamer?

Trey —  October 26, 2014 — Leave a comment

Friends:

After a year of rebranding, renewing, family newborns, new experiences and stretching mentally, physically, financially and emotionally- I am blessed and inspired to be a DANGEROUS DREAMER.  (Thanks be to God and my Pastor Rob Renfroe - who leads a very impactful Church and Men’s Fellowship here in The Woodlands TX)

Let’s face it !! … we have enough capacity here in our little respective bubbles- right?  So the quick and important belief and conviction for ME and our COMMUNITY ongoing is – “what good actions will I take to continue to Dream GREAT Dangerously”.  Maybe it’s a mission trip, or a mentorship to the youth, perhaps lead a Bible study, or volunteer at Church or Charity, ….in addition to just being a better Dad and Husband?

We all need to be inspired and make IMPACT, our world is a terrible example and some of the people we follow.  Our living beating Hearts are meant to be COMPASSIONATE and to help the least, the last, and the lowest.   So in closing, GO NOW and cause a ruckus- a good dangerous impact, and don’t pay attention to the Haters and World.  The world is wrong, Christ is right!  YOU are here to be ALIVE – and THRIVE- we need all the help we can get.  Again, GO NOW and DO LIFE and PEOPLE and COMMUNITY RIGHT!

God Bless!

trey

ACTS for IMPACT in your LIFE

Trey —  October 12, 2014 — Leave a comment

Friends:

We all have acronyms or quick affirmations to keep us on the right track.  Here is one acronym (A-C-T-S) that has helped me in my GROWTH, Prayer and Meditation time, and Reflection on LIFE, FAITH, FAMILY, & CAREER.  I hope YOU find it meaningful as well.  Added bonus- if you Believe in a Greater Higher Power…you will also find this ACTS to be a great simple prayer routine ;)

  • A - Attitude, Acceptance, Appreciation, Adorn, Assurances, Accept, Acknowledge, Action
  • C – Compassion, Communication, Companion, Clarity, Confession, Collaboration, Consistency
  • T – Thanksgiving, Thought, Think
  • S - Salvation, Supplication, Sacrifice, Simplicity, Specific

Fill in the words you need for ACTS, and let this be one of your guiding lights for IMPACT, GROWTH, and SIGNIFICANCE.

And, as one of my YOGA instructor says, “The more you LIVE,  the more you LEARN,… The more you LEARN, the more you LOVE,.. The more you LOVE, the more you CAN’T LET GO, and that indeed is a GOOD THING

all the best w/ love,

trey